The process of healing the negative consists of first identifying honestly the negativities within, then allowing ourselves to fully feel the feelings behind them. Any feeling we avoid gains power over us until we allow it to be felt. Old wounds fester within because we buried feelings we dared not feel at the time, afraid they would overwhelm us. From childhood, when we were emotionally immature, we carried forth the belief that strong feelings could not be tolerated. Healing comes through feeling whatever needs to be felt and learning that it is no longer unbearable. As we experience our feelings fully, we find a new strength within. In Pathwork Lecture #190, “The Importance of Experiencing All Feelings, Including Fear,” the Pathwork Guide says:
Through the gateway of feeling your weakness lies your strength;
Through the gateway of feeling your pain lies your pleasure and joy;
Through the gateway of feeling your fear lies your security and safety;
Through the gateway of feeling your loneliness lies your capacity to
have fulfillment, love and companionship;
Through the gateway of feeling your hate lies your capacity to love;
Through the gateway of feeling your hopelessness lies true and 
justified hope;
Through the gateway of accepting the lacks of your childhood lies your
fulfillment now.
In giving ourselves permission to feel all of our feelings, we free ourselves from the tyranny of our defenses and open ourselves to our hear’s desires. That is true healing. 
 
Taken from Dottie Titus, who wont mind….