‘David’ put a lot of pressure on himself to please other people. He got very upset when they weren’t happy with him. Only when he was empowered, to listen into this part, did he discover it went back to the days when he went away to school very young, and was desperately afraid and insecure. Understanding this part and how hard it had tried to protect him – for the first time – allowed him to separate from it, and see the small boy in him it had tried to protect. As he understood the need of the boy for love and reassurance and could give it himself, so the approval of others became less important and the part that had pressured him could relax.