What is therapy?
|Internal Family Systems therapy ( I have been trained in a number of modalities, but use IFS when I can because my experience is that it is much more efficient) is a useful way of working because|
It has a simple way to negotiate with the parts of you that are trying to protect you, and run your Life for you, so that they are willing to take the risk of trusting its safe to step aside. This cuts through the process psychotherapists call resistance: because IFS understands how these parts are doing their best for you, and how to negotiate with them to step aside.
In helping you separate from your parts, it enables you to taste the curiosity and compassion of the real self – the seat of consciousness – which alone is capable of healing.
In stepping back into the natural Self, and tuning into your parts, you learn what your emotions are upset about, find out what they need from you, and calm them down.
It understands how the different parts of the mind interlock – if one part of your mind is trying to get you to be more assertive, and another part is holding back, these parts will drive you around into an increasing polarity. One part on its own cannot be healed without attention to the other part.
It puts you in charge – and gives you the tools to understand yourself: to become your own therapist – so that you are not dependent on a therapist, or a system of interpretation.