Recovering balance and well-being…

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Recovering balance and well-being…

How do we recover balance and well being, when we are suffering?
 
We become so engrossed in our personal dramas, that we no longer know what to trust. If we begin to recognise what is going on in our mind, to identify rather than be the identified, then we can deconstruct our drama and see how we got into the present situation. In terms of internal family systems therapy, this involves beginning to tune into a habitual defence, rather like turning the dial on an old fashioned radio, so that we can begin to understand what it is trying to achieve. As we do this, the defensive part of us actually feels relieved that we are beginning to understand why it is working so hard. Then it may begin to soften up enough to reveal what it has been trying to protect in us.
At this point, we are no longer seeing through the lens of a defence, and we begin to trust the perceptions of the natural Mind.
 In Buddhist thought, this is the moment when we are no longer reacting emotionally and volitionally, but are beginning to be with, and to see clearly what is actually going on. Then it is possible, to just see, to just hear, and to just know a memory as a memory. This is the true potential of mindfulness – where we are no longer living inside our own personal reaction to Life, and we can see the chain of interdependent causation for what it is, rather than being whirled around by it.
 
 

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Inside Out- the film based on IFS

 
Inside Out, Pixar’s latest animated film offering premiered June 19 and is causing not a little excitement. For one thing, it’s darned good entertainment. For another, it’s clean. It’s a movie the entire family can see and enjoy. Last but not least, the layman gets a bird’s eye view of what goes on inside the brain and how real people deal with memories, emotions, the imagination, and abstract thinking; and that’s just the tip of the iceberg. It’s actually amazing how this one little cartoon film, Inside Out, so broadly appealing to adults and children alike, tells us so much about psychology and cognitive neuroscience. Maybe that’s because the story line of Inside Out is based on the Internal Family Systems Model (IFS), developed by Dr. Richard Schwartz. In IFS, the personality is thought to be made up of valuable parts that each have healthy roles. But sometimes life gets in the way and the parts are forced to reorganize in unhealthy ways.
Think of the child of alcoholic parents—she’d like to go to medical school and become a doctor, but instead is forced to put her career on hold and take care of her parents. This is something you’ll see in most alcoholic families: a child putting her life on hold out of duty to her messed-up family. But while you see this in most alcoholic families, every single one of the children who end up serving as caretakers for their parents is a unique individual. They each have talents and interests having nothing to do with their families or alcoholism. And yet none of these children will get to realize their dreams or use their talents.
Duty has taken over the part that hopes and dreams, making self-fulfillment impossible.
IFS therapy would aim to help someone in this situation work at freeing the part of the person that is stuck and unable to get out there and pursue a dream. It would be about rebalancing these different parts of the personality, about having a conversation with the self, about becoming whole and happy. About becoming the person you have the potential to be.
 
originally posted by Varda Epstein

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Riding the waves of the Mind…

As we all know, it is so easy to be lost in the movies that go on in consciousness, and to feel hopeless – so I paste in below the Buddha’s words on how consciousness (just like a real movie) is made up of many states that are all arising and ceasing. Seeing this makes all the difference – states will actually dissolve, if you can ride the wave down into the ocean….Waves by their very nature are arising and ceasing – but we become blind to this when we are lost in thoughts, which can reify our mind…
 
Middle Length Discourses 38
 
‘This has come to be.
 
 It comes to be from that nutriment
 
 With the cessation of that nutriment,
 
 what has come to be is subject to cessation.
 
_do you see this ?
 
_does doubt arise when uncertain about this?
 
_is doubt abandoned in one who sees this as it actually is with proper wisdom ?
 
_are you free from doubt about this ?
 
_has it been well seen by you as it actually is with proper wisdom ?
 
Purified and bright as this view is,
 
If you adhere to it, cherish it,
 
treasure it, and treat it as a possession,
 
would you then understand that
 
the Dhamma  has been taught
 
as similar to a raft,
 
being for the purpose of crossing over,
 
 not for the purpose of grasping ?
 
No, venerable Sir.’
 

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Like a dog chasing its tail…

My Zen teacher once described much of his practice as having been like a dog chasing its tail. I only recently really got how much of my own efforts to heal myself, practice the Dharma, figure things out have been like this too.  Its so ironic that it takes despair (not seeing the connection between cause and effect, as Nisargadattta defines it) to challenge our melodramas about Life, to really stop us in our tracks. Only then can we begin to know what it means to just be the knowing. Its so simple that the thinking mind – which is addicted to liking and not liking, and revolves around a fixed sense of me in here, and the world out there, just cannot get.
 
IFS at its best, can help us listen into the melodrama – understand where its coming from, and disengage from it, so that you can (as the literal translation of the Chinese word for the Goddess of compassion renders it) just hear the cries of the world.

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Mindfulness….an interview with Jon Kabat-Zinn

Having struggled to be mindful as a Buddhist monk building a road, tiling a roof, cleaning toilets, sitting through pain, I have often been puzzled by the way western psychologists have latched onto a convenient definition of mindfulness as non-judgemental awareness in the moment. Do they know how often emotions are raging, and carrying one away ?  How hard it can be to relinquish an opinion you based your life on ?  
They have taken the seventh step of the eight-fold path, and largely ignored the investigation that is needed to see through one’s conditioning.
That said I often think this style of psychotherapy (IFS)  is a very valuable adjunct to ‘mindfulness’ – in recognizing and understanding the defences they soften up, and are often willing to step to one side, so that mindfulness/compassion/courage/curiosity can be there and embrace and understand and identify what the defences were working so hard to contain and exile – then there can be a surrender to being the knowing.
 
The following article appeared in the Psychologist, and is an interview with Jon Kabat-Zinn who pioneered the growth of mindfulness in the West….
 
“Jon Kabat-Zinn is Internationally known for his work as a scientist, writer, and meditation teacher engaged in bringing mindfulness into the mainstream of medicine and society. He is Professor of Medicine emeritus at the University of Massachusetts Medical School, where he founded its world-renowned Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction Clinic (in 1979), and the Center for Mindfulness in Medicine, Health Care, and Society (in 1995).
Edo Shonin is a research psychologist at Nottingham Trent University, and a Buddhist monk. He poses the questions here.
Why do you think mindfulness is growing in popularity within psychology?
There has kind of been a kind of explosion of interest around mindfulness that’s actually been going on for years but it’s reached the point where it’s kind of like – not just the big bang but the kind of inflation of the big bang. I think there are a lot of reasons for it. One is the kind of momentum in the science that’s built up over the years around mindfulness. So if you look at the plot of the number of papers in the medical and scientific literature over the past 30-35 years, it unfolds at a very low level during the eighties and right into the late 90s. And then it starts to rise and through the early 2,000s, it went higher and higher and now it’s almost going straight up so that [there were] over 700 papers in 2014 alone on mindfulness, and that’s not counting some of the kind of mindfulness approaches like ACT and DBT.
That’s one thing that’s driving it. Another thing that is driving it is the media has gotten a hold of it in a way where, say, in the past year, in 2014, it was the cover story, my work was, you know, the cover story of Time Magazine in February of 2014. Then there was CBS [news] 60 minutes with Anderson Cooper who did this thing in December. And so in 2015, Oprah Winfrey did an hour’s conversation on her big program with me about mindfulness. You know many of the people see these things in the United States and that drives it. Even internationally, I have just spent a number of days giving talks… Amsterdam was like sold out at 950 people, Belgium was sold out at 1,500 people. Paris was sold out at 1,700 people … and tomorrow night in London will be like sold out at like 900 people…
You have defined mindfulness using words such as ‘non-judgemental moment-to-moment awareness’. What exactly does this statement mean?
First of all let me simply say that we get almost no training in our education around awareness at all … It is in some sense trivialised and ignored how powerful the human faculty for awareness is. So what meditation practice in general does and mindfulness specifically is to intentionally cultivate access to awareness, intimacy with awareness. It is not that we have to set up awareness, it is actually already fully developed. What we need to develop is moment to moment access to it.
Why moment to moment? Well that’s really the only moment we are ever alive. But when we fall into extremes of thinking and emotion and so forth then often we are not in the present moment anymore … As children we naturally have the present moment but our education system in some sense squeezes that out of us in ways that are I think becoming apparent and the consequences – the very unwise consequences of it or damaging consequences of it – are becoming much better known now. So mindfulness in education and especially even in kindergarten and first grade and so forth, in primary schools, is becoming a major new vector of mindfulness in the mainstream world now.
I wanted to ask about the term ‘non-judgemental’. Don’t you think it is necessary to make some sort of a judgement call to be able to discriminate that which is right and that which is wrong?
That definition that you are asking me about is actually what I call an operational definition. It is not meant to be a final definition of mindfulness. It is more like a working definition of mindfulness. I don’t know if you know anything about the Zen tradition [of Buddhism] but it’s meant to be something of a koan – a deep question that is not completely amenable to a totally cognitive response. What the non-judgemental is pointing to is actually how judgemental we are. So you could think of it as an invitation to suspend judging as much as we can and just be aware of what is unfolding from moment to moment … I am also making a big distinction between judging which, in the way I am using the term, has to do with black and white thinking – I like this and I don’t like that, that’s good, this is bad – and discernment, which is what you are talking about, which is more the kind of operation of wisdom where you can see the subtleties – the thousand shades of grey between black and white – you know that kind of thing, which is absolutely essential to and part and parcel of the cultivation of mindfulness.
If you read that definition and you don’t know anything about it you might ask well why the hell would anybody want to do that – ‘pay attention on purpose in the present moment non-judgementally’? And you will notice in the definition I don’t give a reason for why one would do that. Again that’s part of the Koan, its part of in some sense what’s left unspoken has a kind of real depth to it. But you could say, if you wanted a reason for doing it, it’s in the service of self-understanding and the cultivation of wisdom and compassion.
Would you say mindfulness – in the manner that you teach it – is a spiritual or a psychological faculty?
Neither, just to be as provocative as possible. First of all, I really try to stay as far away from the word spiritual as possible. But what I will say is that if push comes to shove, my working definition of spiritual is what it means to be really human, which would be another koan because different people would say different things about that. But if I call mindfulness a spiritual practice then of course, there will be people that think that’s wonderful and there will be an equal number of people, or ten times as many people, that think well that’s kind of religion, voodoo, really its nonsense, and they won’t want to have anything to do with it.
I understand that while teaching it you might not want to use the word spiritual. But you personally, what do you think?
Here I have to say I am not a psychologist by training and I have never thought of what I do as a psychological intervention. I use a different terminology. So I would call it a mind-body intervention. We sometimes call the field that’s developed around this mind-body medicine. In other words, the recognition that the mind and the body are not two different things.
In what ways do you think mindfulness as a taught program, such as MBSR and MBCT, differs from the traditional Buddhist approach to teaching mindfulness?
It partly depends on the quality of the teacher. If an instructor is well grounded in the meditation practices that underlie MBSR and MBCT then the essential difference might be zero. What is taught in Buddhist monasteries and what is practiced in Buddhist monasteries is essentially no different from what is taught in MBSR and MBCT – in the sense that one has an ethical foundation to the whole thing. In our case it is the Hippocratic Oath – first do no harm. And of course how would you know if you are doing harm unless you are cultivating mindfulness? And then, you know, it really is about the nature of the mind and the nature of what we call the self – and that’s what Buddhist practice is all about.
Some Buddhist teachers and scholars have criticized the popular mindfulness movement and implied that what is being taught no longer reflects the traditional meaning of mindfulness or Sati. In fact, in some papers we find the term ‘McMindfulness’ popping up. What are your views on this?
First of all, that term first came out of one person’s mouth or one person’s mind. When you say it is popping up, of course, every term like that tends to just go viral on the web, but it just came out of one person’s mind. This is not McMindfulness by any stretch of the imagination. What it is – now I have to use some Buddhist terminology – it is the movement of the Dharma [the Buddhist teachings] into the mainstream of society. Buddhism really is about the Dharma – it’s about the teachings of the Buddha. You know, in various Buddhist traditions, there are actually very big differences among Buddhists about what it is all about and what the best methodologies are and all of that stuff. So Buddhist scholars you know, love to, you know, stew with each other about the nature of all of those questions. And now that this is moving into the mainstream, I think instead of seeing that it has the potential to actually elevate humanity in profound ways that are just completely in accordance with the fundamental teachings of the Buddha about the nature of suffering and the possibility of the sort of transformation and liberation from suffering, they get into, kind of, what I might call orthodoxies that allow them to continue to basically throw grenades at something that is at least 99% healthy for people.
Today mindfulness is described as a form of meditation in and of itself, but in the Buddhist canonical literature, mindfulness is described as a factor that regulates concentration (i.e., it is not actually a form of meditation). What are your thoughts on this?
I think different traditions describe it differently. When I developed the language to describe what it is that I do – what i call Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction or MBSR – there is no question its mindfulness. It’s often spoken of in the Theravada [Buddhist] tradition at least as the heart of Buddhist meditation.
There was a monk in Sri Lanka named Nyanaponika Thera who was actually a German who spent his entire adult life in Sri Lanka as a Theravadan monk, and he wrote a book called the ‘Heart of Buddhist Meditation’. It came out in 1962, and I quote from it in my books, and in that book it describes mindfulness as the heart of meditation, that’s what the book is about and the satipatthana sutta.
So you see I didn’t make up the idea that there is such a thing as mindfulness meditation. It is very much the case in the Theravadan tradition that it is seen that way. In the Vajrayana [Buddhist] tradition and in the Chan [Buddhist] tradition they don’t use that kind of language, but, you know, they also don’t necessarily refer to the Abhidharma understanding of mindfulness.
So yes in the Abidharma mindfulness is a factor – it is one of the seven factors of enlightenment. But I am also using the word, just so you know, as a kind of umbrella term for the Dharma in some much larger and more universal sense. Not just as my working definition.
A newspaper has described you as having done more to bring Buddhism into the mainstream than any other individual. Do you think this is an accurate statement and do you think this is a wise move?
The Guardian got it wrong. I remember that headline. If they had used the word Dharma, then I wouldn’t have an argument with it – the Dharma in its most universal form. But I was not happy with that headline at all, it is just not true. And just to say the Buddha was not Buddhist. This has never been about Buddhism per se as an ‘ism’. The word Buddhism was coined by Europeans in about the 17th or 18th century according to some scholars. So even the terminology sometimes creates a separation and orthodoxies that don’t actually exist.
Do you have any advice for psychologists wishing to use mindfulness in applied settings – such as in clinical contexts or with children, offenders, and so on?
I do have advice for them. I guess the most fundamental thing would be that mindfulness is not a concept, it is not a good idea, it is not a philosophy, and it’s not a catechism. It is a way of being but it requires practice. My strongest advice would be to actually practice it for an extended period of time and then applications for particular areas of psychology that are interested will become in some sense obvious – and from a very profound place of interest. And then they can change the field of psychology. At least I hope they will.”
 

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Giving up hope for satisfaction outside yourself

 
‘Our life is always varying between happiness and unhappiness, or sometimes between relative happiness and relative unhappiness. It is shifting, changing, and we long for a bedrock of peace and stability. It is natural to do so, but most of us spend a lifetime seeking, seeking, seeking, for a bedrock we never find.
Can we find it? Yes—if we comprehend and deal with the problem involved. Until we do, we seek the bedrock outside of ourselves; we hunt with hope for the person or situation or belief system, which will supply us with that which we believe we lack. The illusions of romantic love, of the perfect (and nonexistent life) work or partner (or home or living situation) all beckon to us like the Sirens to Odysseus.
If we don’t understand, time after time our little ship will be shattered on hidden rock. But the other side of such disasters is the dawning recognition that each rough episode in life can be our true teacher; each difficulty is, as one sutra says, ‘the Buddha come to greet us.’
We slowly awaken to the knowledge that the spiritual bedrock we seek is not a life beyond disaster and pain, but the embracing of disaster and pain as they occur.
If we want a refreshing drink of water (of life), we cannot separate out the molecules that we think will be pleasing and tasty for us. If we do (or could) we would not be drinking water but a monstrosity of our own creation.
Similarly, if we refuse the direct, and sometimes painful, experience of this moment, we are left stewing around in our usual thinking muddle of blame, criticism, judgment, or avoidance.
To know the wholeness of life, we have to drink the whole glass of water; we have to experience the moment, as it is, not the distorted version of it that my mind can concoct.
Since the whole glass is nothing but the wholeness of each moment—unavoidable, ever present—when we are more willing to experience our fear and pain directly, the wholeness (bedrock) of our lives is revealed as the miracle it is.
Simple, yes. Easy, no. For most of us, this is practice for a lifetime. However, the bedrock (always there) is more and more known to us as being there. The good life.’  Joko Beck
 
‘The trapeze artist went on to say that the most important part of the trapeze action was something called the dead spot. The dead spot comes ‘at the end of the swing…when the swinging stops moving in one direction and starts moving in the other. Like when you’re highest on a playground swing. The whole idea is to use that change of momentum to create the trick. She explained that it is there, in that moment that the next trick is born.
 
The reporter noted that swinging on a trapeze is a lot like life – timing is all. But, as he also observed, ‘in life its hard to sit still and wait for the timing to reveal itself…life keeps moving and at predictable intervals there will be change. The pendulum will literally swing the other way. You can’t change that. You can only use it.
 
I like to expand the metaphor to include another aspect of trapeze swinging – the letting go between bars. I think of the dead spot as that place between swings, when the performer hangs at point zero before grabbing the next bar. It is the moment of nonaction and notknowing. The events of life offer all types of dead spots.
Our dead spots can take many forms. They can occur at the time of major events, like changing a relationship or profession. It can be the loss of a loved one or indecision over what action to take when faced with a job choice. Whatever it is, no matter how big or small, the dead spot appears when we cannot engage in our habitual way of holding and grasping for the bars, either because we are forced to let go or we wilfully launch ourselves into midair. Life pries our fingers loose and no matter how much we try to avoid it, we end up in the suspended moment, not knowing what comes next.
 
Our usual reaction to this type of situation is to grasp at whatever relief we can get. How we do this differs according to our systems of defence. For some it may be assuming the worse scenario. For others it may only be hoping for the best.
 
If approached with intelligence, the dead spot can be the key to understanding the reactionary behaviours spinning in the dream of self. We can learn how to work in that split second, when either there is no new bar for us to grasp or our usual favourites no longer work; we have the opportunity to know ourselves in a way that is open to whatever life brings our way.
 
When even for the briefest of moments we take pause in the dead spot, that moment of nonaction, before we react, we step through the door marked Enter Here and meet life just as it is, in just this moment. It is in the moment of Just This that the trapeze artist finds the most power and creativity. In Just This we meet the power and creativity to break away from our habitual thoughts, emotional matrix, body patterns, and energy that fuel and direct our reactions. So for example when someone insults us with practice can more quickly turn our awareness to our experience to thoughts like who does she think she is talking to ? We can breathe in the tightening in the shoulders and neck, the words wanting to form in outrage. Just this is exactly what the words suggest – there is only this right now. As one teacher has said, wherever you go, there you are. This is the core of our awareness practice – to challenge us to question our assumptions about what makes the world real to us.’ Diane Rizzetto

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NHS recognises mindfulness is good for depression

 
(in the Guardian on the 26 Feb)
 
Mindfulness meditation has been shown to give patients control over their own depression and anxiety levels and levels of chronic pain, according to a paper published earlier this month in the journal Frontiers in Human Neuroscience.
Previous studies have found that mindfulness meditation can cut the recurrence of depression by 50%, and neuroimaging scans have shown significant positive change in brain activity of long-term meditators. But while scientists knew mindfulness was having an effect, they have not known how until now.
Catherine Kerr, lead author of the new study and director of translational neuroscience for the contemplative studies initiative at Brown University in Providence, in the US, says that when we are depressed, attention is “consumed by negative preoccupations, thoughts and worries”. Insteadnstead of disengaging and moving on, we find ourselves digging deeper into negative thought patterns.
Mindfulness gives patients control over this habitual chain via a “body scan” technique, where patients systematically engage and disengage with the sensations in each part of the body. As they do so, alpha rhythms, which organise the flow of sensory information in the brain, increase and decrease. Kerr describes this as a “sensory volume knob” and it is this flexible focusing skill which, the paper proposes, “regulates attention so that it does not become biased toward negative physical sensations and thoughts, as in depression”. Early Buddhists advanced a similar theory 2,500 years ago in a famous practice text called “Mindfulness of the body and breath”.
I came to mindfulness on a 10-day Buddhist meditation retreat in Thailand. Letting go of thought felt as impossible as tearing off a limb; particularly when the leg and back pains started from sitting cross-legged.
Years later, I came to see that it was unacknowledged emotions that gradually manifested as pain, on an emotional and sometimes physical level. Turning towards them, and accepting them fully, helped to resolve them.
Thankfully, the secular antidote that the NHS has rolled out is far easier than the one the Buddha taught. You don’t have to sit cross-legged, and the sessions, usually run by a clinical psychologist, take place once a week over a period of eight weeks.
Having recognised the health and cost benefits, some NHS trusts accept self-referrals, others accept referrals via GPs. The Mental Health Foundation, which has produced a list of some of the NHS-funded courses, estimates that as many as 30% of GPs now refer patients to mindfulness training.
However, these programmes are often bundled under “talking therapies” treatment, such as cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), which is misleading since talking is exactly what mindfulness practitioners aren’t doing.